It's my wedding right?

I love when I sit down and have the first meeting with clients. They always start out really well, with the brides and grooms telling us what they are envisioning. Then they elaborate and tell us about visions, and ideas, or elements that they have had in their head since they were little. So our job should be easy right?

The truth is, yes it is your day, and yes it should be easy. But the reality is, there are other people to think about. Maybe the couples parents, have been dreaming about this since they were little. Maybe they are the only child, or maybe the parents are polar opposite of their kids. There lies, the challenge, and the benefit to hiring an experienced wedding coordinator/planner.

We wear many hats in our business, we are mediators, couselors, and at times even referees! I recommend to all of our clients that they do the following steps to ensure a more peaceful planning process:

1) Think about the most important elements that both you and your partner want
2) Ask your parents what some of their important elements are
3) Then calmly discuss what things you are willing to compromise on, and then what things you are unwilling to compromise on.
4) Then keep the lines of communication open, and try not to be worried about hurting the others feelings by saying no, or telling them you would really rather not do that.

Communication is key, and honesty is a great policy! Agreeing blindly to something like a dress, or flowers, or officiant, just purely to avoid conflict with your parents is not always the best bet. This type of behavior often times results in things building up, whether it is tension or frustration. Eventually when things build up they explode, and you do not want that for your wedding.

Now we do not advise, taking everyone and their Aunt Martha's opinions. (Sorry Aunt Martha) As too many people often offer unsolicited advise and opinions which can cause issues all in itself. But focus on the key people closest to you that love you unconditionally and just want the best for you.

Take it from us, as many many of our clients can tell you. We help all sides plan the wedding of their dreams with minimal stress and hurt feelings. No bridezillas/momzillas/groomzillas in the LBE family if we can help it.

So talk openly and honestly we know that it can be hard to get that dialogue going, but in the end it will be worth it. Just remember although it is your "day", long after your day, you will look back and be glad that you kept them involved.

Happy Planning..